For the first time in my own existence, I’m
in a healthy commitment
. It feels nothing in short supply of great and helps make myself question the way I ever been able to end up being with my toxic exes. Given that I’m with somebody I am able to trust and who’s advantageous to me personally, most of my personal concerns have actually all of a sudden disappeared.

1. 
   I do not bother about checking their Twitter several times every day.
   
   My ex seldom made use of fb, but that did not stop myself from checking it virtually 10 instances on a daily basis. I’m not exaggerating.
   I happened to be preoccupied
   . I experienced knowing which he was getting buddies with, if someone else ended up being creating on his wall, and whatever else he was performing there. I’ve zero want to do this using my spouse. Really don’t even recall when it was actually that I checked their web page because it’s just that unimportant.
2. 
   Really don’t be worried about holding in my feelings.
   
   I’m notorious for holding my personal thoughts in. I have been carrying it out with everyone for as long as I’m able to recall this decided not to help me in interactions. Using my ex, i usually feared he would assess myself or make me feel insane or keep myself and so I shut my throat and pretended every thing ended up being OK with regards to wasn’t. Using my husband, i could make sure he understands every thing. We now have available interaction. We could really discuss what exactly is bothering you.
3. 
   I really don’t concern yourself with becoming duped on.
   
   I am aware that my personal ex cheated on myself. I did not have strong evidence, but there are
   countless signs
   . I even asked him and then he denied it, but that failed to issue. We knew. We worried about it constantly. As soon as we happened to be long-distance, we questioned what he had been carrying out. When he went with buddies, I wondered if he had been connecting with somebody else which had been stressful. Today, it is not actually a blip to my radar to be concerned about my hubby. I am aware without a shadow of question that You will find nothing to be worried about.
4. 
   I do not fret which he will not discover me personally attractive.
   
   I am not a skinny girl—I do not have already been. I been curvy. My personal ex was extremely peculiar precisely how I looked. He dated me for 5 many years and demonstrably need to have liked how I looked but he did not love me personally entirely. It absolutely was extremely unusual which he got my clothing down during sex and I also understood it actually was because the guy don’t like my tummy. That demonstrably performed great things for my personal confidence. My hubby, alternatively, can’t get an adequate amount of me personally. He really likes my personal figure and informs me on a regular basis how gorgeous every inches of my own body is. He is becoming 1000% authentic. I have my very own difficulties with my body system but none of them tend to be due to the way the guy treats me. I wish We cherished my own body as he really likes it!
5. 
   Really don’t be concerned about ingesting in front of him.
   
   More to the point about my body system issues, my personal ex accustomed make statements about how exactly a lot I ate or what I ate. I realized almost everything indicated back once again to my personal body weight, so I concerned about the thing I ate facing him or the way I consumed. My hubby could watch me consume two helpings of a meal and have me personally easily wanted much more. The guy does not care. He does not generate backhanded statements about my eating. I could actually delight in what I desire now.
6. 
   Really don’t fret which he’s ashamed to be noticed with me.
   
   Whenever my personal ex and that I had been long-distance and I also went along to see him, we rarely actually ever sought out. He don’t introduce us to pals. Whenever while we did head out, the guy acted really unusual around me. My better half, alternatively, would scream from rooftops simply how much he likes myself. He always states he feels very happy having myself in which he desires to show me off to worldwide.
7. 
   I do not bother about just how my personal loves will
   
   
   impact him.
   
   I typically felt the requirement to cover stuff I appreciated around my ex. TV shows, flicks, music, foods—you title it, he’d determine me for this. I possibly could never speak about or participate in those actions around him. My husband, conversely, watches cheesy flicks with me and listens to me explore my personal favorite beauty products YouTuber and does not bat a watch. The guy loves reading my personal passions being an integral part of them in so far as I like revealing all of them.
8. 
   I really don’t worry about maintaining my personal future plans a secret.
   
   My ex was very weird about writing on all of our future. He got really uncomfortable as I talked-about marriage. He stated
   the guy don’t desire children
   and I lied to myself that i did not possibly. We held a whole lot of this a secret. We lied by what i must say i desired. My spouce and I are so open by what we would like. He’s zero fear of devotion and we also tend to be 100per cent on a single page—and that is the way it must.